Following Dave Rand's framework, the conversation went something like:

"Atrix-web should not use unsafe"

"Thank you for volunteering - you are now in charge of making atrix-web not using unsafe"

"Thank you for delegating responsibility of making atrix-web not use unsafe, to me. I accept responsibility for this piece, but you are still the leader of $PROJECT." <workworkwork> "Here is a PR that makes atrix-web less unsafe."

"I don't accept your PR."

Dave Rand's advice doesn't apply here, as several people picked up responsibility for making atrix-web less unsafe, put forth the work to do so, but were rejected. It's one thing for me as a user to feel entitled to everyone else doing what I think they should, while not putting in any effort, but IMO it's less clear cut when I'm putting my money when my mouth is, and submitting PRs.