Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018)

Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by throwaway72873 on Sunday December 29, 2019 @03:55PM (#21908407)

I disagree. Keeping focus is a basic biological function of brain. Healthy boundaries and respect are necessary for that. If your "partner" prevents that, relationship is toxic and will probably get even worse over time.

In other words, it is better to be alone, than with someone who ruins your mind and sleep.

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by koonsolo on Sunday December 29, 2019 @04:04PM (#21908468)

Well don't have any kids then.

So from an evolutionary standpoint, focus might not be that important after all ;).

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by throwaway72873 on Sunday December 29, 2019 @04:17PM (#21908556)

I have kids. Again it is about setting boundaries and respect.

Most people make mistake they start compromising very early for no reason, and when things get tough, they just get buried.

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by koonsolo on Monday December 30, 2019 @02:50PM (#21916098)

So how do you set the boundry when your baby starts crying in the middle of the night, or when your kid throws up in the bed? Let the wife handle it?

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by mam2 on Sunday December 29, 2019 @04:03PM (#21908452)

Both are orthognal. Prentending the contrary is just a way to find pride in deciding to be a geek who has no sex.

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by throwaway72873 on Sunday December 29, 2019 @04:18PM (#21908565)

It is 2019, you do not need a relationship to have a sex.

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by scandox on Sunday December 29, 2019 @04:28PM (#21908629)

Tell me more. How is this achieved? Do you mean sex workers? Or pornography? Or a real doll? Or what?

Because if I've learned one thing in my life it is that there is no sex without a relationship. Everything else is a sliding scale of masturbation.

The desire to pretend otherwise is a cause of significant misery for many people.

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by mam2 on Sunday December 29, 2019 @06:56PM (#21909545)

The point iz that you dont live to be focused. At best you are supposed to focus sporadically to have better life.

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by thobrnst1837 on Sunday December 29, 2019 @04:52PM (#21908794)

You do if you're under 35, male and ~<70th percentile in attractiveness. Which is a massive proportion of the tech world.

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by mam2 on Tuesday December 31, 2019 @04:37AM (#21919933)

found the incel

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Re:Focus has become more valuable than intelligence (2018) by o-__-o on Sunday December 29, 2019 @04:36PM (#21908673)

But then you are not keeping focus of your relationship. Focus is not relegated to just your day job, you need to work and thus focus on your relationship consistently too

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