Re:Daughter of Tiger Mom responds to controversy
by srgseg on Sunday February 06, 2011 @12:46AM
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So the underlying question is: how important is it that your children are capable of the types of success which require enormous determination and tenacity.
I don't it's fair to say that opting for the Tiger Mom approach necessarily implies that all self worth comes from winning.
The really tough questions is: How much of your child's self esteem should come from enduring extended periods of hard work to achieve a goal. It's tough because the extent to which a child tries hard may be directly affected by the extent to which their self esteem requires that success.
Re:Daughter of Tiger Mom responds to controversy
by nerfhammer on Sunday February 06, 2011 @11:10AM
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> I don't it's fair to say that opting for the Tiger Mom approach necessarily implies that all self worth comes from winning.
Quoting Tiger Mother: "The only activities your children should be permitted to do are those in which they can eventually win a medal, and that medal must be gold."
Re:Daughter of Tiger Mom responds to controversy
by brg on Monday February 07, 2011 @04:23PM
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The model gave examples of competition between man and nature and man and himself only. The piano practice was against the goal of learning a new task and giving up, of believing in self-limitation or overcoming it. It wasn't against comparison to others.
A self-worth determined entirely on comparing yourself to others is a recipe for stress and unhappiness, and it is sheer foolishness.