The statistics, obviously, bear out that a large number of, even happy, people cannot hack it under the constraints of monogamy. Either monogamy needs to be better defined or we need to drop it as a societal pressure/constraint on relationships. Probably a little bit of both is needed.
Naively, I'd wonder if children could be raised better by a group of adults rather than a couple.
And yes, this is very much my business, because how you raise your children dictates what kind of society my children will live in, so please raise them right.
Sure, but I'd like to see if your conjecture is actually backed up by the evidence. I too might be initially inclined to believe that monogamous partners are better for childcare, but I'm guessing that I am also epistemically biased towards that assumption, just as a product of the societal norms I've grown up with.
The problem is people attach too much ego to their relationships and jealously easily flares up when there is a hint that their partner may also be attracted to someone else. There are also financial motivations for catching your partner in an affair and immediately leaving them.
However, the fact remains that people already have these kinds of relationships, they are just not talked about or openly accepted. It’s a bit like being a gay man 40-50 years ago.
If it weren’t for society priming people to instantly dump a partner upon discovering they are a practicing non-monogamist, people might be forced to think for themselves and decide if that’s something their okay with, and I suspect many people might be.
The only way having multiple partners is ethical is if they are all aware of each other and it was agreed upon before hand that the relationship is open. What you're advocating for is extremely unethical.
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> partner upon discovering they are a practicing non-monogamist
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> ethical
Nah.
> partner upon discovering they are a practicing non-monogamist
You don't "discover you're a practicing non-monogamist", that's just a euphemism for finding out you're being cheated on. You either agree to non-monogamy or you don't but the only ethical time to give someone that choice is before you've started practicing it behind their back.
> I find demeaning others life choices publicly online to be anti-ethical, but what do I know. Please be nice.
It's actually the grandparent that keeps demeaning people's life choices by calling monogamy "boring", "vanilla" and "on the wrong side of history".
The issue with non-monogamy is that a pairing (2 people) is the smallest working group, and that's what the game theory of dating proves to be most durable and successful. A 3-person working group requires at least 3x more relationship work, and a 4-person pairing requires 6x as much.