Re:Emotionally focused couple therapy can help love last
by Twinklebreeze on Sunday December 08, 2019 @03:05PM
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Polyamory doesn't have to be a three or four way free for all. One person could have two independent partners. Some partners will come and go, while others stay. It is more work, but it doesn't have to be as bad as you make it out to be.
Re:Emotionally focused couple therapy can help love last
by ngngngng on Sunday December 08, 2019 @03:15PM
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It is ironic. I have no data on this, but I would guess that having sex with the same gender is far less common than having multiple sexual partners, so why have we worked so hard to normalize and legalize same gender relationships while giving no thought to polygamous relationships?
Re:Emotionally focused couple therapy can help love last
by empthought on Sunday December 08, 2019 @03:33PM
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The legal frameworks have to do with property transfer and responsibility for raising children, both of which are much more complicated in relationships with more than two partners.
Re:Emotionally focused couple therapy can help love last
by xwdv on Sunday December 08, 2019 @03:03PM
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People have partners on the side very successfully until they are caught, and arguably those side relationships would be more successful if they did not have to keep them a secret and their other partners agreed to the open nature of the relationship.
The issue with non-monogamy is that a pairing (2 people) is the smallest working group, and that's what the game theory of dating proves to be most durable and successful. A 3-person working group requires at least 3x more relationship work, and a 4-person pairing requires 6x as much.