Re:Dating While Dying
by dang on Saturday December 07, 2019 @03:13PM
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This crosses into personal attack, which is not allowed on HN. Please review https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and edit that kind of thing out of your comments in the future. Your comments in this thread have broken several of the guidelines, most importantly Be kind.
It's already a bit dodgy when people respond to other's experience by telling them what's wrong with them, especially when their experience is painful. But blunt one-liners and internet tropes ("lose the incel angle") should be right out. Upping the ante like you did in https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21721545 is seriously not ok.
What to do instead? First edit out personal criticisms—they're unlikely to land well. Second, it's always ok to share your own experience. For example, if your comment here was based on experiences or observations of your own, it might have been both interesting and respectful to share some of that.
It's already a bit dodgy when people respond to other's experience by telling them what's wrong with them, especially when their experience is painful. But blunt one-liners and internet tropes ("lose the incel angle") should be right out. Upping the ante like you did in https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21721545 is seriously not ok.
What to do instead? First edit out personal criticisms—they're unlikely to land well. Second, it's always ok to share your own experience. For example, if your comment here was based on experiences or observations of your own, it might have been both interesting and respectful to share some of that.