> I feel like someone whose dad was murdered would be offended by the same principle.

Actually, my mom was murdered gruesomely. I have better things to do than getting offended too much over people's word choices when I know that they're just venting and not actually trying to insult me personally.

That said, there's plenty of awkwardness when people assume that a person your age should have living parents and you always end up having to explain what happened when you get to know new people.

No problem. I personally don't take offence to people using "rape" like that (since rape hasn't been a part of my life, fortunately), but it irks me when other use it, and I just mention it as a piece of advice, because people might get themselves into awkward situations without knowing it. It's inconsiderate, and that part does tick me off a little.

I come from a country with perhaps the most open mind on free speech, so there probably isn't going to be anything that gets under my skin - I probably use profanity too much as a result.

I only see "rape" on the internet and don't know how prevalent it is in real-life vernacular in English-speaking countries, but it's something I'm glad I don't see that much (outside of StarCraft 2 discussions).

I don't really know that many contexts a vernacular "murder" is used in, so I don't know about that.

Regardless, the victim isn't going to be able to take any offence.