Banks do underwriting in various ways. When I (white male) got an AMEX student card in college 25 years ago, I had a $3k limit. MBNA and Citi gave me $35,000 and $20,000, respectively.
This is bending over backwards to make up a "certain people are singled out for better treatment" story just so you don't have to admit to yourself that a "certain people are singled out for worse treatment" story is at least as plausible.
I doubt very seriously that Apple would call Goldman and ask them to give some people special treatment. I’m not saying that Apple wouldn’t do that because it isn’t fair. They wouldn’t waste their time doing it.
Therefore, its possible that DHH has some ultra-premium cards with 100K limits or whatever, while his wife does not, and despite having similar credit limits "the algorithm" says "hey this guy has huge credit limits and an Amex Black card, we better give him a huge limit too."
Say DHH got 10K USD. Then his wife got 5K USD which is really low for someone with the assets she can likely claim. But let's say he got 1M USD and his wife got a mere 50K USD...kind of a different story then.