Re:Most Americans Say Parents Do Too Much for Their Young Ad...
by seemssilly on Saturday October 26, 2019 @04:55PM
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At the age of 28, I still receive help from my mother. She buys me food periodically and has given me well over $1500 this year to help survive.
That being said, I grew up in an abusive household, followed up by one that was incredibly unstable. I was incarcerated from most 16-21, with very little time out in the real world during that time.
Another person responding to this mentioned that parents "either pay for it now or later."
I find that to be incredibly true. I think that my mother helps me so much now because she sees how much I've struggled and how some of that struggle is inevitably due to her choices. I don't blame her, but(and this may sound incredibly entitled to some)I don't think she has too much of a right to throw me to the wolves so to speak. I can't remember a time I've been stable outside of the past 2-3 years and even now, I'm actively using IV opiates. A large chunk of my life seemed very much outside of my hands at a younger age and I don't necessarily know how much more I could've done for myself other than get to the point I'm at now.
I think a lot of people are messed up and need a lot of help. I think that if you make the decision to bring someone into this world, you don't stop being responsible for them after an arbitrary amount of rotations around the sun.
That being said, I grew up in an abusive household, followed up by one that was incredibly unstable. I was incarcerated from most 16-21, with very little time out in the real world during that time.
Another person responding to this mentioned that parents "either pay for it now or later."
I find that to be incredibly true. I think that my mother helps me so much now because she sees how much I've struggled and how some of that struggle is inevitably due to her choices. I don't blame her, but(and this may sound incredibly entitled to some)I don't think she has too much of a right to throw me to the wolves so to speak. I can't remember a time I've been stable outside of the past 2-3 years and even now, I'm actively using IV opiates. A large chunk of my life seemed very much outside of my hands at a younger age and I don't necessarily know how much more I could've done for myself other than get to the point I'm at now.
I think a lot of people are messed up and need a lot of help. I think that if you make the decision to bring someone into this world, you don't stop being responsible for them after an arbitrary amount of rotations around the sun.