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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by vanderZwan on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @08:08AM (#21269481)
> Whether you say "Eleanor procrastinates" or "Eleanor wait to do all her studying the night before the exam" it's still the same thing.

It is not. The latter is a fact. The former is an interpretation of that fact showing how the person saying it judges this fact. If you perceive the former while someone says the latter, then that is a result of your own expectation of judgement.

I have ADD and had to unlearn this myself.

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Re:Interested in improving your relationships? Try Nonviolen... by awb on Wednesday October 16, 2019 @10:59AM (#21271085)
Exactly. "Eleanor wait to do all her studying the night before the exam" doesn't attempt to insert the part of the story we don't know.

Maybe she waited because she's lazy, maybe because she was waiting for her anxiety to decrease, maybe because she was working two jobs.

When we make a judgement and say that she procrastinates, we shut ourselves out from the rest of the story and insert our own.

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