An Update to Our Community and an Apology

Re:An Update to Our Community and an Apology by goatinaboat on Sunday October 06, 2019 @04:38AM (#21170634)

You could surely express the golden rule as “A won’t tell B what to identify as and B won’t tell A what words they can and can’t use”. But this requires both A and B to participate.

There is another group C, overlapping with B, people scrutinising your every word waiting for something, anything they can use, out of context, to get you fired. That’s problematic.

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Re:An Update to Our Community and an Apology by chipotle_coyote on Sunday October 06, 2019 @06:35PM (#21175668)

"A won't tell B what to identify as and B won't tell A what words they can and can't use".

So:

- Joe won't tell Dani that she can't identify as a she

- Dani won't tell Joe that he should call her "he", not "she"

Do you think these two are really fundamentally equivalent?

If Dani starts calling Joe "she" over Joe's objections, that's totally okay in this schema, right? Deliberately misgendering someone is never harassment?

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