I believe that men can manage their image and make themselves attractive to women. If a man believes they are worth speaking to and are attractive, it goes a long way with a women.

If my starting base is "women just don’t want people they’re not attracted to hitting on them in public", then it's would mean that I start from a weak position. I feel like that mentally basically says "I am not attractive and women do not want to speak to me". People can sense this and find it unattractive.