Going to back up what the others said.

My husband and me both take prep, his first Doctor refused since it promoted "promiscuity" and would only prescribe it if you are in a relationship with someone positive.

Which is bull.

Find a new doctor that is actually sex positive and won't refuse it for stupid reasons.

(Admittedly I am lucky where I am though to have a doctors office that focuses on LGBT issues, which happens to include HIV prevention/care)

The get a new doctor, one who values your health more than their antiquated morals.

That's a big assumption that the doctor's decision was based on personal morality rather than the damage caused by side effects, etc

Getting a doctor takes time, something I'm woefully short on.

then get a new doctor. there is no medical rationale behind this, and they are letting irrational personal feelings get in the way of your good health

If you have the time to browse HN, you have the time to browser your health insurance website for a new doctor!

No that's not the case, the side effects of PrEP aren't minor. PrEP should not be prescribed so lightly.

Yes, that is the case. Tenofovir and emtricitabine are generally well-tolorated. They can affect bone density and kidney function and this should be monitored; the majority of people experience no side-effects.

Go to a doctor or clinic that focuses on the LGBT community. It's very easy to get, and they'll take care of setting you up on the Gilead copay assistance program, so the medication should be completely free. Their program will cover up to $7,200/year in copays.

Did they give a reason for their discomfort?

Lack of familiarity with the drugs mostly.

You can get it prescribed online. I think you just video chat with a doctor, then they prescribe. Plushcare and Nurx are 2 sites I found just by searching.

Get a second opinion.