I'm 10-15 minutes outside of Raleigh. I have a 22-35 minute commute (depending on time of day and traffic). I bought a house for something like 300-350% of a junior dev's annual salary in 2013, and from what I can tell, could do the same today (both house prices and junior salaries have increased).

(Note: I am in Garner, which is a less affluent town, but hardly a bad place to live).

Thanks - appreciate the data point. I just bought a house for about 0.8x a mid-career dev's annual salary, but worked really hard to find it (I'll be about 1.2x once I get it finished and rethatched, which is part of why it was cheap)

But I work remote and it's a risk to leave the city - growing up in northern California the idea of owning a home without an enormous amount of debt (and thereby meaning I had to decide to maximize income whether it meant doing what I wanted) was foreign.

How do you define a "decent" job? If you're a nurse you can probably find a decent job most anywhere. If you're a software developer then your options may be more limited.