Re:Are we happier when we spend more time with others?
by kd5bjo on Wednesday July 24, 2019 @09:14AM
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On the opposite end of the scale: go to a sporting event and cheer on the home team. You’ll be in an energetic group with common purpose, and no expectation to hold a conversation of any kind.
Re:Are we happier when we spend more time with others?
by humanrebar on Wednesday July 24, 2019 @04:50PM
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My point was that "how am I minmaxing my life?" is a poor foundation for a healthy relationship on an ethical level if not a practical one. Go ahead and start with being focused on others and trust that the personal benefits will follow.
Cheering on an underappreciated club might have the same benefits, but I'm mostly doubtful that consumer activities, albeit fun and mildly social ones, qualify as being externally focused.
If you're treating this like a diet or exercise regimen, it will probably turn out the way most of those turn out.
Instead, maybe think about the other people involved and consider them important as well. There are plenty of people that need some attention, care, resources, advice, and so on. If people come to rely on you, it is motivating, meaningful, and is more in line with the Golden Rule. I'm sure most of us would rather be friends with someone than be their weekly dose of socializing.
If you really don't like people, help out animals. Or the environment. Or "the commu ity". As long as it's part of a team.