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Re:Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlie... by parthdesai on Tuesday July 23, 2019 @11:25AM (#20507466)
>> If you talk to a person, and the conversation is dull, they might be a boring person. If most of the people you talk to seem boring, then you are the boring person.

> And I don´t really understand how you can come to that conclusion. That´s like 2+2 = duck

No, it's more like if everyone you talk to is an asshole, it's most likely that you are the asshole.

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Re:Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlie... by jrumbut on Tuesday July 23, 2019 @12:24PM (#20507942)
This is one of those things I can't believe it took me so long to learn. If a conversation is boring you, all else being equal, the other person is likely to also be bored. If you're enjoying talking to someone, again without any other knowledge, they are probably also enjoying the conversation.

Plenty of exceptions and I have no explanation for it because I am a paper-shell of a human being, but it's a useful heuristic.

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Re:Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlie... by celticmusic on Tuesday July 23, 2019 @12:36PM (#20508026)
absolutely not true. There are many many contexts in which I won't talk about what I do for a living because while I absolutely enjoy it and could talk for hours, I know others will find it uninteresting.

I seriously get tired of seeing these inane observations in this thread.

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Re:Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlie... by whynaut on Tuesday July 23, 2019 @04:01PM (#20509751)
> absolutely not true. There are many many contexts in which I won't talk about what I do for a living because while I absolutely enjoy it and could talk for hours

Alternatively, many people will enjoy hearing you passionately discuss whatever matters to you, and will be happy to pick up whatever scraps of peripheral knowledge they can, insofar as they can understand you.

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