Huh. Maybe its paradox of choice then? In our past we were pretty much forced into a community, and this is still largely true of the impoverished, but once you have a certain amount of wealth you're able to choose your community, and so PoC kicks in and paralyzes you.

PoC = paradox of choice

...what the fuck are you talking about?

I think they took PoC to mean "Person of Color" rather than whatever the parent comment meant, which I think was quite clearly not that.

I can buy that. I thought it would be obvious what I meant from simply having read the words "paradox of choice" earlier in the sentence. Of course, that doesn't explain how anyone could have seriously thought that "Person of Color" made any sense at all in this context...

You're getting warmer!

Could you please stop posting unsubstantive comments to Hacker News?

That's strange. Maybe it depends on where? I have rented my entire life and never knew a neighbor. Recently bought a house and immediately not only met all my neighbors but one helped us clean up after a major wind storm came through the day we moved in. There are people & kids walking around our neighborhood constantly. I feel part of a community a lot more than I ever did before.

You are comparing "bought your own house" to "rent your own apartment" while the prior post, I think, was comparing "have your own living space" to "shared or multi-generational living space".

It's not just this. It's more that you cannot get a home nearby your family nowadays. Everything's taken.

It can be even problematic to stay in the same city, especially if it's a small city with few opportunities. People tend to migrate for education... And stay where they left.