Getting enough sleep while raising two toddlers. I’m not being cute here. Everything else in my life has suffered because my sleep is worse. At this point I’m considering lowering my personal expectations until one of them is in school, rather than struggle and fight only to feel like I’m not consistently doing the things I need to do.

> lowering my personal expectations

Yes. raising one toddler was harder than I expected, two is not simple addition. Like kittens. It's an exponent. Figure when the youngest hits 10 you may be able to have a life of your own. By that time your goals may have changed. The sleep thing does get better eventually but then everything else happens.

There's other opinions and I say nothing against them; but i will repeat what others have said: It's worth the time. Raising another human being truly is one of the most rewarding things one can do.

Not easy things.