The general physician I went to initially to kick of the quest for diagnosis obviously had an interest and gave me a book called “the answer” (edit).
If you are Swedish: “hemligheten”
In english the tag line (translated by me): “from moments to lasting relationships”
The Answer: How to start a relationship and make it last
https://www.amazon.com/Answer-start-relationship-make-last/d...
Why the same pattern I saw in how I had to be ”interested” to give something or someone my attention repeated over and over.
I’ve had many relationships over the years with a specific pattern: I lose interest in about a year.
One total burn-out after another. Extreme interest followed by absolutely nothing.
There’s a follow up book I can’t find in English called (my translation): ”The dark secret”, that treats what they call ”deorganized attachement”
This one’s actually more relevant for me personally as my youth and upbringing was... “interesting” and in several ways traumatic.
On the topic of books:
“Healing ADD” was really useful for my partner:
https://www.bookdepository.com/Healing-Add-Daniel-Amen/97804...
Here's a fantastic lecture (split into ~5 minute segments -- this guy gets it :) by Dr. Barkley:
ADHD - The 30 Essential Ideas Everyone Needs to Know
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BzhbAK1pdPM&list=PLzBixSjmbc...