> 1. Family joining Facebook. It used to be a funny place I could goof around with my friends, posting whatever I wanted. Now I have to filter everything I say because my grandparents can see it.

Google+ nailed this perfectly. You could place connections into Circles, and a post could be shared to specific circle(s). It let teenagers be teenagers, allowed professionals to separate their personal life and maintain a professional appearance, and so on.

In reality we do maintain separate personas for different groups of people we know, and it's ridiculous that no social network reflects this. The closest anyone else has come to this is Reddit where you can use multiple pseudonyms, so someone recognizing your posts/comments on one account does not get access to all of your posts/comments.

To be fair to Facebook (as if they deserve it it), they're fixing this with their focus on Groups. They know people aren't interested in the News Feed any more, so Groups are just another stab at that Circles concept.

I wouldn't say they nailed it perfectly, as the UX was stupidly confusing to use.

Also I'm pretty sure you can create lists of your friends and share certain posts or images with "everybody but X, Y, and Z" or "X and Z only" where [XYZ] are either lists or specific friends.

While this is a viable “fix” it once was buried 2 or 3 levels deep in your settings and not modifiable on the fly, if I recall correctly.

Even if it had been implemented in its current form 5 years ago, filtering post audiences still seems to involve a level of added complexity not readily tractable for your run of the mill user.

I think the point this changed for me was when the facebook feed changed from a chronological feed, to weighted "interest" posts. (Top stories and all that guff).

It used to be a bizarro town-hall of people I knew posting comments, photos etc. with each new post jumping to the top of the queue for people to pay attention to in "real time". It felt involved.

Now it just seems to be (in between all the shared memes and dodgy news articles) the more "active" posts popping up as a priority, which makes it feel more static to me. I liked seeing the posts with no likes as much as the high activity ones even if I wasn't going to like or comment on it myself. I wan't to see everything in order.

It's not very dynamic anymore.

I know you can still change the feed to chronological, but if most aren't doing that, the point is moot.

I use it for events, otherwise I'd have deleted it years ago too.

#1 really smacked me in the face recently. A friend of mine invited me to join her lifestyle group on FB. I couldn't do it because I just don't need my 70 year old mother or teenage daughter assuming things about my sex life based on FB groups I'm a member of.

I'm 38 and I feel exactly the same way. As soon as my parents joined it (along with hordes of people their age), it seems like that was when the changes in how the timeline functions happened.