How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

Re:How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016) by malvosenior on Sunday April 28, 2019 @04:31PM (#19773505)

> Love is seeing them with a significant other and knowing that you have zero chance of ever being with them, because of circumstances or past events, and yet would do anything and everything for that person. And you have done that, giving up all money/time, and taking in personal pains, just so you can see a smile, or knowing they are in a better place.

This is pretty toxic tbh. If you really feel this way about someone who has a significant other that they're serious about, the best thing you can do is leave their life (if you really can't get your feelings under control). No good will come from a one sided relationship with someone who not only is unrequited but also happily involved with someone else. It's not fair to any of the three parties involved.

If you really want what's best for them, let them go.

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Re:How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016) by majos on Sunday April 28, 2019 @07:16PM (#19774440)

Yeah. As much as I think "toxic" is overused, it's definitely not helpful to you or the person you "love" or the person they love to pine after the "beloved" forever.

I mean, wouldn't you feel weird if somebody had these very strong feelings for you that you just could not reciprocate? Would that make you want to keep the relationship going, or would it make you feel a queasy mixture of guilty, flattered, and uncomfortable?

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