It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.

Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by grammaton on Friday December 03, 2010 @10:39AM (#1966180)

I can't speak to what actually happens when she's at one of these events since I'm not there. But given that her whole blog is a coy, disingenuous photo-shoot, I have to say I look askance at this woman in particular. It's not difficult to imagine her interpersonal style being similar. That's where the above comment was coming from.

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by parfe on Friday December 03, 2010 @10:56AM (#1966256)

Here's another site full of photoshoots of the writer. Think he's asking for personal contact if he hands out his business card? http://stallman.org/photos/rms-working/

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by blasdel on Friday December 03, 2010 @02:15PM (#1967077)

Unfortunately, yes: http://stallman.org/extra/personal.html

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by grammaton on Friday December 03, 2010 @11:12AM (#1966337)

False analogy. There's a world of difference between a tech nobody (in her own words) and a very well known, established programmer with decades of experience who is seen as an authority in the field. At that point you are, to some extent, a media personality as well, and that sort of behavior is a somewhat more understandable.

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by parfe on Friday December 03, 2010 @11:16AM (#1966351)

So he's earned the right to have pictures on his blog? Or are you thinking with your dick as long as it doesn't have a CompSci Beard?

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by grammaton on Friday December 03, 2010 @01:47PM (#1966978)

What? That second sentance is a non-sequiter....

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by tome on Friday December 03, 2010 @12:57PM (#1966797)

RMS is not looking particularly sultry in those photos.

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by parfe on Friday December 03, 2010 @01:49PM (#1966992)

So you're saying she's asking for it?

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by tome on Friday December 03, 2010 @02:07PM (#1967055)

Her appearance suggests to me she's open to the suggestion of initiating a romantic relationship with someone suitable. If she acts in real life in a manner which reflects what her blog headline photos suggest about her, then I would expect her to get asked out a lot.

(That doesn't excuse any men from being douches about it, but if they're polite and take no for an answer then I don't see any problem)

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by parfe on Friday December 03, 2010 @02:23PM (#1967105)

>Her appearance suggests to me she's open to the suggestion of initiating a romantic relationship with someone suitable.

And there it is: Pure sexism.

Knew you couldn't hold it in.

Edit: Just to prove the point. Find a picture of a man that you think qualifies as "His appearance suggests to me he's open to the suggestion of initiating a romantic relationship with someone suitable."

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by grammaton on Friday December 03, 2010 @03:14PM (#1967288)

The TOP BAR OF HER WEBSITE, that is to say, THE VERY FIRST THING YOU SEE when you go to her site, is a series of glamour shots of her smiling, laughing, nibbling on her glasses, staring into the camera, voguing all over the place - all while wearing what could very well be a black dress, with bright red crimson lipstick on.

And that's perfectly fine if she wants to trade on her appearance this way, but the minute someone suggests she may be doing so, suddenly they're "sexist." How does that work?

"Find a picture of a man that you think qualifies as "His appearance suggests to me he's open to the suggestion of initiating a romantic relationship with someone suitable."

I, for one, would not be terribly turned on by a guy wearing red lipstick, etc. That's just me, being straight and all. Men and women have different signals, that's just how it is. If the pictures where all of an aquiline Abercrombian staring off into the distance with his shirt off, casually slung over his shoulder, showing off rippling pecs and abs, well....what would YOU say he was doing?

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by tome on Friday December 03, 2010 @02:32PM (#1967140)

Pardon me?

Men and women are different when it comes to (at least, heterosexual) relationships, and signal their interest differently. If observing that makes me a sexist, then so be it.

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Re:It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me. by lhorie on Friday December 03, 2010 @11:05AM (#1966302)

As the old saying goes, don't judge a book by its cover...

Regardless of how goofy she wants to make her blog look, I think she still has a good point (although, granted, it was a rant and thus not exactly written in the most positive way possible)

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