> It's also stated that men are more visual so seeing might what helps them use their imaginations.
As further evidence of this, look at the fanfiction community, a community with a large focus on literary depiction of romance and sex that's dominated by women (at least on the author side, where stats are easy to get).
You're not far off as it is often referenced much like any addition. It's also stated that men are more visual so seeing might what helps them use their imaginations.
I agree that the mind has the biggest part in sexuality and imagination has a bigger role.