The first thing I would do is say that someone must spent at least two years on the ground in the country they're trying to "help". They shouldn't "do" anything for those two years, just live with the local people and observe and learn.

I honestly think that anyone that doesn't actually live there on the ground doesn't have the faintest clue how to help, or what is even actually needed.

Also, the very idea that "help" is even required becomes quite strange after you've lived there a while. Certainly giving money helps nothing, very likely makes it worse.

Maybe training. Maybe education (but that will be very church or western oriented, so it's dangerous).

Maybe the best approach is to let people figure things out for themselves, and come up with their own solutions to problems. Maybe we could just offer some advice or pointers from time to time, if asked.