Sometimes its best not to further aggravate family arguments. This situation is currently recoverable, filing charges will forever change the relationship.
Sometimes its best not to further aggravate family arguments. This situation is currently recoverable, filing charges will forever change the relationship.
In most such situations it may resolve the matter to the benefit of a wiser or more socialized party, does little additional harm and merely cements and documents a longstanding situation that has little or no chance of being changed. It also provides documentation and a basis for future litigation if necessary.
Deescalation is not emotionally satisfying but it does work.
"Deescalation is not emotionally satisfying but it does [sometimes] work."
FTFY
but you may not agree.
JohnSully, you are an optimist. As in
"this is the best of all possible worlds." -the early Candide in Voltaire's Candide
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Best_of_all_possible_worlds#Cr...
Like the older Candide I am a pessimist and my personal experience is that:
a)Roughly a third of people are either simply nuts (insane, partially schizophrenic, manic-depressive, etc.), have significant character flaws (greed, dishonesty, vice, short temper, addiction, etc.), hold far-fetched ideas that bar them from thinking clearly or are too dim-witted to do so. In any conflict or decision, they will never agree to most anything.
b) Half of people are amenable to reason but require a significant effort in both time and expense to gain agreement. No decision will ever take less than a week.
c) A final one-sixth of persons will see a presented beneficial resolution for both parties _and_ will act thereupon almost immediately.
"Because we were unavailable, my younger brother-in-law was given Power of Attorney."
If what you say is true, then get a lawyer and request that the court transfer POA to you or your wife, whomever was specified in his papers or in the law by default. Now that you _are_ available, the court may transfer POA to you.
Let this be a reminder to those reading that, when you assign POA you might also wish to designate whom you DO NOT wish to be assigned POA, in case the first-listed assignees are not available, resign, or later removed somehow.
Too bad you didn't let him assault you: that would have made it much easier. You could have charged him with assault and used it as evidence in the POA hearing or simply as leverage to force him to yield.
Alternatively, if you can find grounds, you can question the original POA document and have it nullified.
All in all it sounds as if, in addition to having irritable in-laws (who doesn't?), you simply didn't get your way and are angry about it. So either lawyer up or learn how to deal with "No.".