Re:A guide to difficult conversations
by glitchc on Tuesday March 26, 2019 @11:56AM
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There may be deep-seated and long-standing resentments playing out here, due to insecurities and perceived differences in status. It's possible your brother-in-law has also never held a position of power or authority. No amount of conversation on your part may fix it as a large portion of the problem is the source (i.e. you). It may be best to back off and let your wife handle it. He's her brother after all. Work through her to get your message across.
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Re:A guide to difficult conversations
by leesalminen on Tuesday March 26, 2019 @12:24PM
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Of course we tried that first. My wife tried, their uncle tried, their cousins tried. I was the last resort.
I agree that it’s best now to back off. There’s nothing else I can do. It hurts me to see my wife in additional pain because she’s not allowed to talk to the medical staff herself. She has medical training and is likely to understand the medical “Mumbo Jumbo” better than anyone else in the family.
I’m not sure I understand how it is impossible to talk to the medical staff, even if the brother still holds power of attorney. They won’t tell her anything about her dads condition without it?
She doesn’t want to do it because her brother would freak out?