I don't think Netflix is comparable. The App Store is a market place, where things are bought and sold. Netflix is not a consumer marketplace.
Netflix shows a wide variety of content to the buyer, the buyer pays and consumes certain (but not all) of the content. The content owners are ultimately paid in a way that reflects the demand for their product relative to the others available in that marketplace. (It's not per-unit pricing with a rev share, but you still get paid more to license big blockbuster content than little-watched niche stuff.)
Also similar to App Store, Netflix has certain "blessed" in-house products that it pays to create itself, and lists along side the externally-created products.
That is what Spotify is alleging, yes.
Netflix isn't comparable as you can choose any other content streaming services. And also you can use any ISP to access to Netflix.
You're correct that Apple Music may be a loss leader, but even if it is a loss leader, there's significantly more nuance involved before we can declare it to be predatory pricing.
That's not how that works. If you charge $50/hr as a freelance software developer and you work on your own stuff for a day you didn't "get $400 back", you paid $400 in opportunity cost.
If apple had a limited number of apps and they were declining other apps in lieu of its own, that would be true.
Since Spotify have ~36% of the global market (Apple have ~19%) that could reasonably be viewed as predatory pricing.
It's also worth noting that Spotify charge as much as Apple and you can subscribe to the service without using IAP.
There are many platforms which rigidly control what's allowed on it. For example, is Netflix comparable? Netflix can control which providers are represented on its platform.