Do you say the same thing to women who are on birth control? Or do you believe that gay men, specifically, should be denied the ability to use a second form of protection?

Seriously?

Condoms break. People enjoy sex. Telling people not to have sex is BS. Monogamy is great if you can find the right person. Many don't, or don't find them for a long time.

There's PEP for condoms breaking.

There's some bastards who go around in clubs and prick people with infected needles. There's a subculture in some communities that believe that everyone should have HIV.

Citation needed

Here’s a debunk https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/hiv-infected-needle-attack...

Is it enough of a threat that people take drugs beacause of it?

It seems like wearing a kevlar vest every time you go out to avoid being stabbed and no normal person does that.