Yes. But even so, that doesn't make it immoral to help your children of for children to accept that help.

Being in favor of a better world tomorrow doesn't mean that you can't play by the rules of the world today.

Every election, I vote for policies that will considerably increase my taxes, but at the same time, I expect my CPA to make sure that I only pay the taxes that I'm legally required to pay.

Recognizing that fact, you adapt, utilize all the cards you have been dealt with, turn your disadvantages into advantages.

For example, when you are born poor, you develop skills that someone who is wealthier does not have the opportunity to learn.

If make it less so means reducing personal freedom to the point of regulating how much time a grandmother can take care of it's grandchildren, I really strongly disagree with that vision.

I believe the solution is probably more along the lines of taxing everyone fairly, and using some of the funds to provide free or affordable childcare to everyone who wants/needs it. Likewise with other forms of family support/advantages. Provide alternatives for people who don't have things by birth-lottery.

So you can still have grandma watch your kid all you like, while the person who has no living relatives can still have a kid and hold a job by taking advantage of subsidized daycare.

And under that system grandmother could be paid for the value she provides.

No one is suggesting that.

Equal opportunity is good. Preventing or even suggesting a family cannot help their own children is ridiculous.