The Psychological Trap of Freelancing

Re:The Psychological Trap of Freelancing by balabaster on Monday February 11, 2019 @03:19PM (#19137879)

It may be easy to assume that from one statement, but there's far more to relationships than one slice of one facet of our dynamic. When you're in a relationship, you work together for the common good of your relationship. It might be my work, but it was our family, and a household that she had every bit as much right to feel safe and secure about as I had to my needs.

That's not naivete, that's considering that I'm part of something greater than myself.

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Re:The Psychological Trap of Freelancing by rchaud on Monday February 11, 2019 @04:21PM (#19138472)

Not who you're replying to, but I wanted to say I respect you for offering thoughtful, measured responses to what seem to be throwaway comments from internet alphas who couldn't resist projecting their own biases and stereotypes into their replies, simply because you happened to mention your ex-spouse was a woman.

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Re:The Psychological Trap of Freelancing by balabaster on Monday February 11, 2019 @04:30PM (#19138531)

Thanks. I don't tend to rise to such personalities, but I equally won't let their comments off the hook and allow toxic behavior to propagate unchallenged.

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Re:The Psychological Trap of Freelancing by rchaud on Monday February 11, 2019 @05:53PM (#19139285)

This is the only way to maintain a solid level of discourse on online forums in this day and age. Hopefully more commenters will take the approach you have.

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Re:The Psychological Trap of Freelancing by ska on Monday February 11, 2019 @05:57PM (#19139326)

I appreciate the optimism inherent in your reply.

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