Re:Son, as soon as someone puts their hands on you...
by sausagefeet on Thursday November 11, 2010 @07:11PM
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Parents can't be there for there kids 24/7. On top of that plenty of parents simply don't care. Their kid is a trouble maker and they've (sadly) grown to accept it. You might say that's a systemic problem that we need to fix, and my reply is "good luck".
Re:Son, as soon as someone puts their hands on you...
by moshezadka on Thursday November 11, 2010 @08:22PM
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But that's not the point, is it? We are talking about what advice parents give to their kids. The parents who would read a thread on HN are clearly the parents who care.
If a kid's parents do not care about him, I'd like to suggest that the least of that kid's problems is getting bullied in school.
Re:Son, as soon as someone puts their hands on you...
by sausagefeet on Thursday November 11, 2010 @09:13PM
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By parents not caring I was referring to your stereotypical bully's parents, not the parents on HN. Parents going to parents doesn't solve much if one of the parties does not care.
When kids realize that there are consequences for bullying, and that they have to stop, they will. (The above goes for physical abuse, mostly. The solution for verbal abuse is "learn to insult them better". They either learn to stop insulting you, or they fall back to physical abuse, in which case, see above.)
That's what my parents did when I was bullied in middle school. They called the other kid's parents, and he stopped. There was one time they did need to threaten the principal with calling the police, and she pleaded with them not do it, promising that the kid was getting psychological help for his issues, and they agreed to conditionally back off (and he never threatened me again).
Bullying is already socially unacceptable -- it's against the law of society. We can solve it the same way we solve every other criminal activity, which is by involving the law enforcement authority.
Edit: Changed "socially acceptable" in the last paragraph to say "socially unacceptable" (was a typo).