Ummm what about just going outside of the house to work? Like one of those shared workspaces? Not being able to work when your wife is around doesn't really seem to me like ground for divorce, it just seems like you need different kinds of workspaces.
I'm in the same boat regarding interruptions. A lock on the door can help.
In other words, she doesn't respect the deal she made with you.
Re:Ask HN: I think I want a divorce
by throwawayIn2019 on Wednesday January 16, 2019 @10:51AM
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I honestly think she just doesn't know how. I don't think she is trying to be dis-respectful. She just needs that close personal contact and interaction through out much of each day.
Our goals in life are very different. The way we work is very different.
We tried a middle ground to where we each have dedicated time each day for work and goals. However, this never implemented well. She would come in a bother me for the smallest things. I explained I need to focus and she just does it again 5 mins later. So I drop back and punt and hang out with her and the kids. When she needs to work, she gets that dedicated time. I think the main reason she is always on the phone or Skype or Zoom and therefore she is never interruptible.