I'm no master, but IME #4 involves a kind of "playing dumb" until the people involved sync up. Kind of like tutoring, but for your working style, and in the practice of bedside manner (which is already rare in general). #4 also necessarily involves a sublimation of ego, the likelihood of which among masters of #1,2,3 is left as an exercise for the reader.

I think 1-4 are ordered the way they are by priority.

That makes me extremely uncomfortable because I feel like in my career I've been a master in the reverse order, 4-1.

This could explain the unusual paths that I've taken, but I still feel like I'm a long way from reaching my full potential while still in my mid-30s.

I can't see how #4 is possible without #1