Re:Ask HN: How to handle being sidelined gracefully?
by rvn1045 on Thursday December 27, 2018 @10:25AM
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How does this work from the other side? are there people discussing they should collectively exclude someone? what are the conversations that are taking place. I have never been on the other side, so would like to see a perspective from there.
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Re:Ask HN: How to handle being sidelined gracefully?
by maxxxxx on Thursday December 27, 2018 @12:47PM
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It's often a matter of convenience. Dealing with overseas people is hard especially if there is a time difference. They probably don't explicitly decide to exclude someone but instead it's too much work to include the person.
Re:Ask HN: How to handle being sidelined gracefully?
by qetuo13579 on Thursday December 27, 2018 @03:17PM
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I turned up one morning to find two of my coworkers in a project meeting conference call with the PM. Later in my weekly "all projects" call with the PM I asked why I wasn't invited. She told me it wasn't my project. She also doesn't think it's necessary for me to continue attending the weekly "all projects" meetings where we discuss progress and priorities on all the engineering projects company wide (across 3 sites).
Re:Ask HN: How to handle being sidelined gracefully?
by maxxxxx on Thursday December 27, 2018 @03:44PM
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I guess you really are being excluded!
Re:Ask HN: How to handle being sidelined gracefully?
by atmosx on Thursday December 27, 2018 @04:02PM
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It’s a good idea to start looking for a new gig, you never know, but better be proactive.
Re:Ask HN: How to handle being sidelined gracefully?
by DoofusOfDeath on Thursday December 27, 2018 @04:41PM
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Having lived through that, it matches my experience. It's one of the reasons that I now fully buy into the recommendation of not being the only remote worker on a team.
One needs a truly exceptional team and manager to avoid being miserable in that situation.