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Re:‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whol... by jf- on Thursday November 29, 2018 @02:33PM (#18563168)
I think his view is fairly correct. I also don’t see it as being negative, you’re making your own value judgement equating commitment with positivity. Men do tend to want to have a lot of partners, and many of those who can, do.
Re:‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whol... by watwut on Thursday November 29, 2018 @03:01PM (#18563409)
It is just not my impresion that men who hop relationships look all that better. The comitted ones are not ugly ones.

Also, a men who is having relationship with you solely because he can't find replacement likely sux as a partner. Or maybe she sux or they don't match, but in any case, that relationship will be crap.

And that relationship will become real bad after children.

Re:‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whol... by B0btheBuilder on Thursday November 29, 2018 @03:38PM (#18563760)
>It is just not my impresion that men who hop relationships look all that better. The comitted ones are not ugly ones.

There are plenty of good-looking men in committed relationships. You're reading the relationship in reverse. It's not that "men who hop relationships look all that better". It's that better-looking men can hop relationships.

Re:‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whol... by yholio on Thursday November 29, 2018 @04:09PM (#18564036)
I wouldn't equate looks with desirability, for men it's much more complex because women have complex expectations, and that's exactly why men maintain and even enhance their desirability with age.

That being said, the desirable men are either committed (unavailable) or available because they can hop and choose to do so. So only a minority of desirable men are available. This is in strict contrast with the large majority of young women, who can almost always hop relationships should they so choose. Since overall there needs to be gender equilibrium, females are sliced by age to a much larger degree, allowing the minority of desirable men of all ages to pursue the minority of younger women.

The asimetry is caused by the fact that females are selective and males are partner-maximizing. It's not good or bad, it's a sociological truth.

Re:‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whol... by watwut on Friday November 30, 2018 @01:00AM (#18567080)
No, it is not that easy to find desirable men for large majority of young women. No, women can not hop relationships as easily as you seem to believe.

Also real sociologists do not claim what you claim. They have a lot more nuance into it and in terms of marriages, talk a lot a lot more about economy and it's affects.

Your version sounds like something that emerges on chat when people cherry pick half understood studies, not what sociologists says.

Re:‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whol... by jf- on Thursday November 29, 2018 @04:33PM (#18564251)
YMMV there. This is assuming that everyone is the same and these are absolutes, they are not. Every trait is a distribution.