Basically, the junior people get screwed no matter what...
It's also worth noting that not everyone celebrates these holidays, so for some, that's just a normal day like any other and they wouldn't mind it as much, but appreciate the slight bonus.
If it's plain cash, I can just deposit them without buying anything. For these reasons, I always wrap cash in an envelope with a personal hand-written note. Have been gifting this way to teachers, postmen, home-cleaners and no one has complained so far. When my friends/colleagues try to gift for any occasion, I always encourage them to gift cash.
isn't gift giving itself over-consumption? at least among peers, the other person would have just gotten the item themselves if they actually needed it.
> When my friends/colleagues try to gift for any occasion, I always encourage them to gift cash.
presumably you exchange gifts with these people on some sort of regular basis. if so, isn't this just a net zero transfer? may as well just not give gifts.
You could level your hate at anything. "Great, mom. Now I'm stuck playing with this one corporation's toy instead of having the cash to buy whatever I want. Ugh, I hate it!"
It makes you sound ridiculous.
My wife gives horseback riding lessons; not a job that people typically offer tips for. She's very good at what she does and sometimes a new parent (it's almost always tween girls taking riding lessons) will tip her when they realize how much their kids enjoyed the session. She used to refuse, but after realizing that just made everyone feel awkward, she takes the cash now. However, while she appreciates the gesture, it still makes her feel a little weird.
A simple "thank you, you're awesome" would probably do just as well.
Oh.
Americans can be deeply sensitive to people thinking they're poor and in need of assistance. And five bucks is practically nothing. Most people might well just take it to Starbucks anyway.
Exactly. A gift card is appreciation. Cash is pity.
"I don't need/want your charity..." vs "I don't need/want your pity..."
I do bring $5 Starbucks gift cards for the entire crew of every flight I'm on to thank them for having to work on a day when most of the country is with family. It's not much, but it's something. The folks flying on holidays are low on the seniority list, so they're generally working that day because they have to, not because they want to.