you cannot prove the negative (realistically). If you have a vulnerability, you must treat it as though it has been exploited.
You can want the world to work differently, but to do so coherently I think you should explicitly engage with the unintended consequences of such a policy.
edit: Within reason, anyway. Obviously if your vulnerability includes write access to logs or something then you're poked.
> We made Google+ with privacy in mind and therefore keep this API’s log data for only two weeks. That means we cannot confirm which users were impacted by this bug. However, we ran a detailed analysis over the two weeks prior to patching the bug, and from that analysis, the Profiles of up to 500,000 Google+ accounts were potentially affected. Our analysis showed that up to 438 applications may have used this API.
^ the above statement, but couched with this:
> We found no evidence that any developer was aware of this bug, or abusing the API, and we found no evidence that any Profile data was misused.
Devil's advocate: Do you believe that proactive security assessments would still be performed if each vulnerability found was required to be disclosed as though it had been exploited?
> https://www.cms.gov/Outreach-and-Education/Medicare-Learning...
> edit: less-than sign wrong way*
Breaches, not vulnerabilities. The discussion is not whether or not breaches should be disclosed[0], but whether newly discovered and believed-to-be-unexploited vulnerabilities should be disclosed.
[0]: They should of course, after a reasonable period in which to patch the vulnerability used.