And because of that you should not judge me? This is fucking ridiculous.

You make the common mistake of disregarding time during this discussion. This is interesting and part of the reason why I think we as humans are still developing our concepts of time.

We still talk about people in absolutes, as if the labels we assign someone today are still relevant tomorrow.

Perhaps previous you should have been judged for your poor decisions. I don’t know.

Later you does not deserve to be beholden to those judgements though. People change.

Labeling someone something for life is a poor heuristic, probably more relevant when we died around 20, not now we live 4 of those short lives in one of our long lives.