NYC isn’t easy but it’s not anywhere close to as bad as OP is making it out to be.
This entire post is nothing more than a chance for OP to bitch about his frustrations with NYC. And I get it, I really, really do. But his complaints are overblown.
The very fact that his building has a garage and a doorman is a good indication that his experience is not representative of the entire NYC experience, and that he’s probably trying to live a lifestyle that just isn’t compatible with NYC and he’d probably be happier elsewhere. This city isn’t for everyone.
Most of the people in NYC I've come across have been fairly nice or neutral, although that could be entirely dependent on the neighborhood. Having said that, just the other day we saw a guy in a taxi get out and yell at a student struggling to get onto a special education yellow school bus. That was pretty heartless.
His post (and this thread) is a good resource for weighing the pros and cons of moving to any city. Many people move to NYC with ridiculous expectations of living their dream and become despondent when they realize the subways smell like urine and the people can be as cold as the weather.