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Re:People Like You More Than You Know by thecatspaw on Friday September 21, 2018 @03:14AM (#18037750)
I'd be happy to hear it.

You too

Re:People Like You More Than You Know by DoreenMichele on Friday September 21, 2018 @03:32AM (#18037841)
I have two special needs sons and I've done all kinds of therapy and what not. So kind of randomly:

Nutritional supplements actually have a better track record than drugs for dealing with things like ADHD. If you can pinpoint the things that you need for your brain, you can see real improvement over time.

B vitamins, high quality salt, the right fats and certain minerals, like magnesium and calcium, are likely candidates. Start a journal. Try one and only one new thing at a time to see what it does. Don't buy multi vitamins. Get individual supplements and make sure they are bioavailable.

Mold problems at home, work or anyplace you spend a lot of time can have significant negative impact in mental function. Try to root out moisture issues and mold problems.

Start a private journal and deconstruct what people say to you, how you feel about it and why you feel that way. Most people aren't terribly nice. The veneer of civilized behavior tends to be pretty thin. It may be more them than you. You may find your reactions aren't as irrational as you think they are.

During my divorce, under circumstances where I didn't really care how things played out and a lot of men were chatting me up, I point blank asked men what they thought was attractive about me. This was incredibly eye opening because every one of them had a different answer. So my ideas about what made me attractive -- that it was X or Y specific thing -- were completely busted and it was a fantastic experience. People are attracted for reasons specific to them. It isn't really a case of "I have X trait and that is my main attraction."

So if you ever have an opportunity to participate in a workshop or similar where you can get feedback from a variety of people, you might be surprised what you learn about how the world sees you. It can be a wonderful antidote to the thoughts about yourself that dominate your self image.

Similarly, I did a series of self portraits in therapy and that was eye opening. Most people don't really have a clear idea of what they look like. Their idea of themselves is often something of a caricature that exaggerates specific traits and underplays others.

Best.

Re:People Like You More Than You Know by jwdunne on Friday September 21, 2018 @03:57AM (#18037973)
Oh wow. Helpful advice. I have ADHD and recently been taken off my medication abruptly because my BP was too high. I've been struggling without it.

I'll give your recommendations a try. Thank you! :)

Re:People Like You More Than You Know by circlefavshape on Friday September 21, 2018 @07:04AM (#18038769)
> I point blank asked men what they thought was attractive about me ... every one of them had a different answer

> Most people don't really have a clear idea of what they look like

Wow! I had no idea about this, that's super interesting

Re:People Like You More Than You Know by travisjungroth on Friday September 21, 2018 @10:00AM (#18039734)
What is high quality salt?
Re:People Like You More Than You Know by DoreenMichele on Friday September 21, 2018 @12:21PM (#18040765)
Not table salt.

The best is Celtic Sea Salt. After that is various other brands of sea salt, Himalayan salt, kosher salt, canning and pickling salt.

Re:People Like You More Than You Know by travisjungroth on Saturday September 22, 2018 @08:31PM (#18048732)
How are these other salts better for you than table salt?
Re:People Like You More Than You Know by DoreenMichele on Sunday September 23, 2018 @01:20PM (#18052059)
Table salt has problematic additives. One of the additives is an anti-caking ingredient. It is the reason table salt pours easily. Other forms of salt tend to clump up.

Sea salt also has additional micronutrients. It isn't just sodium chloride.

Not necessarily a huge issue if you are perfectly healthy, but it makes a surprisingly large difference if there is anything wrong that intersects with these chemicals in some manner.