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Re:People Like You More Than You Know by DoreenMichele on Thursday September 20, 2018 @09:03PM (#18036495)
It's also actually socially very problematic to have praise heaped on you publicly. It makes other people jealous and causes lots of backlash.

The single most effective thing I have found for reducing forum drama is to mostly ignore any compliments. Saying "Thank you" is inevitably followed by multiple people feeling compelled to openly and publicly hate on me.

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Re:People Like You More Than You Know by Jeff_Brown on Thursday September 20, 2018 @09:52PM (#18036675)
A way to avoid that dynamic could be to compliment only when no competitors to the receiver are around. A more direct solution would be to make sure those competitors all feel secure.
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