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Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by CamTin on Sunday September 02, 2018 @11:04PM (#17900027)
Outside marketized relationships like boss-underling, employer-employee, and salesman-customer? Pretty much no one who isn't an Adam Sandler villain.
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Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by joe_the_user on Monday September 03, 2018 @01:23AM (#17900506)
It's a tough thing to express. Certainly, we feel like good people are ones who aren't simply calculating a benefit.

But that doesn't mean people don't expect a benefit, it's just that the people we admire expect it without crudely calculating it.

I'd say in a lot of ways, a person entering into a relationship expects benefit and expects to form an "us", a commonality, a partnership, with their other, so that what benefits is "us", the common group, and not simply the individual as a completely separated entity unconcerned with the other.

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