Motherhood in the Age of Fear

Re:Motherhood in the Age of Fear by AnthonyMouse on Friday July 27, 2018 @05:57PM (#17629757)

> I, as a father, can get away with all kinds of things because according to society I don't know any better, whereas my wife, as a mother, is expected to be perfect all the time and when she does something that doesn't measure up to someone's unvoiced, unwarranted expectations she's harshly judged for it.

The problem is the other side to this coin, which is that because males are presumed to be incompetent, their interactions with children are restricted ahead of time. Children aren't allowed to be alone with an adult male because the presumption is that he'll allow them to solo pilot a homemade single-passenger rocket ship with no safety equipment, if not literally rape and murder them.

And then, for example, little girls can't learn about tech because qualified adult women to teach them are scarce and they're not allowed to be unsupervised around adult men.

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Re:Motherhood in the Age of Fear by jessaustin on Saturday July 28, 2018 @12:30AM (#17631538)

...little girls can't learn about tech because qualified adult women to teach them are scarce and they're not allowed to be unsupervised around adult men.

This may change with the rise of ubiquitous surveillance. In fact if I'm alone with a teenage girl to whom I'm unrelated for more than a few minutes, I'll be much more comfortable if there is a recording. This may also change as deepfakes become more common...

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Re:Motherhood in the Age of Fear by AnthonyMouse on Saturday July 28, 2018 @12:40AM (#17631572)

That's assuming the behavior is rooted in rationality, when the whole issue is that it isn't.

Joe Random was never actually going to hurt your kids.

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Re:Motherhood in the Age of Fear by jessaustin on Saturday July 28, 2018 @12:52AM (#17631610)

Well sure, but it isn't just parents preventing the tutoring described above. What man wants to open himself up to that craziness?

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Re:Motherhood in the Age of Fear by AnthonyMouse on Saturday July 28, 2018 @01:02AM (#17631639)

But that's just the same thing. We don't even need to debate what percentage of allegations are false. The percentage of men accused of sexual misconduct, falsely or otherwise, is low.

It's like school shootings. You hear about them because they're outrageous, not because you're ever likely to experience one.

And if someone is willing to lie about what happened when you were alone together, what stops them lying about the fact that you were alone together to begin with?

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