How are they escaping EU regulation about monopoly bundling (basically all the same things Google is accused of in this judgement?)

They basically do the same thing (sometimes to an even greater extent) when it comes to bundling their own software with their hardware.

Apple can bundle whatever software it wants with its own hardware, as long as it doesn't force other companies to do the same. Had Google stayed within its own Nexus / Pixel lines, were wouldn't have been any fines.

Because the issue is when you force those terms on other OEMs. Apple is doing nothing of the sort.