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Re:The Power of Positive People by fergatmuhacct on Monday July 16, 2018 @06:12PM (#17545613)
This goes much further than just jokes. It's better to never to say someone is an asshole. As if it's an immutable part of their character. It's almost always better to say someone is acting like an asshole. Or in more extreme cases someone often acts like an asshole.

This leaves room for improvement/reevaluation and it's actually far more accurate in almost all cases.

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Re:The Power of Positive People by ant6n on Tuesday July 17, 2018 @06:49AM (#17548707)
People, when being told that they're being an asshole, often don't make distinction. "You called me an asshole!"
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Re:The Power of Positive People by fergatmuhacct on Wednesday July 18, 2018 @05:15PM (#17562124)
"I did not say you are an asshole. I said you're acting like one right now."
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Re:The Power of Positive People by ant6n on Thursday July 19, 2018 @06:05PM (#17570751)
Yeah, it just doesn't work. Then you argue about whether you called somebody an asshole, and you're on the defensive (even though the other person was a jerk).

I think what _may_ work is "don't be a jerk" or "stop being a jerk".

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