I think the misunderstanding here is that a conversation is not a contest. There aren't combatants or winners. But, there certainly is potential for harassment, emotion, and aggression of which all are unnecessary.

If you want a citation then go find it. Don't expect other people to do YOUR work for YOU. For more information on trolling: https://github.com/prettydiff/wisdom/blob/troll/Avoiding_Tro...

Anybody who anticipates a conversation is a thing that can be won, as in a contest or battle, is probably a troll.