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Re:Habits of Highly Miserable People by erikpukinskis on Monday June 11, 2018 @09:27PM (#17290060)
I think the key is to pay attention to where the victim is in their process and honor that.

That may mean not acknowledging the suffering, or it may mean not acknowledging that things will be ok.

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Re:Habits of Highly Miserable People by rectang on Monday June 11, 2018 @09:41PM (#17290112)
I like the true listening in your approach. Responding that way reinforces agency.

I think that's also compatible with having an expectation that the situation will change over time, that most often the intensity of suffering will decrease, and that the survivor will get their life back on track.

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