Re:Life as a stepmother
by linsomniac on Monday May 14, 2018 @11:40PM
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Early on in my stepdadhood, my partner and I called me "Bonus Dad", a phrase we'd heard and liked as an alternative to the phrase that fairy tales have prefixed with "wicked".
One day I was mentioning this "Bonus Dad" and "wicked step parent" thing to the kids after school teacher, and she said "I don't know what you mean, my step dad was awesome!" That comment really warmed my heart.
Fast forward a couple years now and the kids just call me "dad". It probably helps that their other dad is now a girl, so I'm not really taking anyone's place? Don't know.
Re:Life as a stepmother
by opless on Tuesday May 15, 2018 @05:50AM
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I've just owned the 'evil step parent' moniker, it's taken all the power out of the negative perspective, and I can be more authoritative when I need to be and when when you get called names... it reminds them how totally not evil you are. :)
One day I was mentioning this "Bonus Dad" and "wicked step parent" thing to the kids after school teacher, and she said "I don't know what you mean, my step dad was awesome!" That comment really warmed my heart.
Fast forward a couple years now and the kids just call me "dad". It probably helps that their other dad is now a girl, so I'm not really taking anyone's place? Don't know.