Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (2012)

Re:Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (2012) by vorpalhex on Monday May 07, 2018 @09:21AM (#17012480)

In general, stamina (social, mental and physical) is like a muscle. The more you train it, the better shape it gets in and the more work it can do before it's exhausted. Start with something small like reading a book in a coffee shop after work, or meeting a friend for dinner and a beer. Slowly do more over time.

Just like you wouldn't go to a gym and deadlift 300lbs cold, you're not going to get off work and run a social club in your free time - but if you put in the consistent work, you can absolutely get there.

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Re:Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (2012) by badpun on Monday May 07, 2018 @12:40PM (#17014152)

> but if you put in the consistent work, you can absolutely get there.

I'm guessing you're right - you _can_ do it (the same way people in medical residency can force themselves to work 80 hour workweeks), but will it ever feel pleasant and not like a chore? I can go out with friends in the evening after work, but I'll be a bit slow and groggy.

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Re:Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (2012) by pc86 on Monday May 07, 2018 @01:17PM (#17014509)

> I can go out with friends in the evening after work, but I'll be a bit slow and groggy.

And this is why the weekends are typically much busier than weekday evenings at restaurants and other social locations.

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Re:Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (2012) by vorpalhex on Monday May 07, 2018 @02:06PM (#17014933)

To continue using the gym metaphor - there's often times an initial hurdle, but once you're actually socializing and out there, you have a good time and you feel good afterwards.

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