I had a friend who once told me that once you have kids socializing is easy by the nature of getting the kids out and meeting up with other parents. I have found this to ring true since having our first. We have met other parents through daycare, mutual parenting groups, and other distant relationships. Having a kid also makes this inherent struggle a bonding exercise for new friendships as you learn to rely or at least sympathize with each other.

Also, no one is ever stuck. On your time for self care you have to make an effort. This is a lesson you simply have to learn. I know I have.